Welcome To Reflowerment™
Take Your BLOOM Back!
How Do You Feel About Your First Time?
The first time you you had sex, that is …
And how do you feel about the implications that you “lost” a part of yourself you can never reclaim?
Does it, indeed, feel like a “loss”? Do you grieve it, or think about it?
Whether conscious of it or not, our collective deflowering is a loss we’ve never grieved.
This is unsurprising, considering we were programmed to believe that our virginity was something that could be “lost” and “taken,” or was something that even existed in the first place. (More about this in the “Changing the Language” section below.)
And yet, your ‘first time’ is one of the most important subjects we’re not talking about—studies have shown that this one experience can affect our sexual lives and self-esteem for life.
Reflowerment™ gives women permission to share about their first time without shame …
While helping them rewrite painful stories and erase any negative impacts on their perceptions of self and sex with Reflowerment Rewrite sessions, groups, and retreats.
Reflowerment™ offers the tools, support, and community to heal unprocessed emotions, and help women reclaim part of themselves that they were told, and therefore believed, was lost.
The disempowering messages involving our first time are antiquated, patriarchal, and deeply mysogonistic. They’ve been tolerated for far too many centuries. It’s time to change that.
It’s time to take our bloom back.
Reflowerment Rewrite
An empowering 90-minute experience to take your bloom back!
How Does It Work?
In this life-changing session with me personally, you’ll have the opportunity to share about your first time in a safe space, should you wish to do so.
Whether or not you choose to share, I’ll lead you through my proprietary Reflowerment Rewrite™ methodology — a safe and incredibly gentle visualization and energy healing process. Together, we will:
Release grief and other unresolved emotions connected with your first time
Rewrite the memory of you first time, replacing it with a new story that will lead to incredible shifts.
To understand more about the powerful energy healing method behind the Reflowerment Rewrite™, visit my B.E.S.T. energy healing page.
Investment: $250 (Debut pricing until 7/15)
Changing the Language
Along with helping women voice and rewrite their personal stories, Reflowerment™ is about changing the narrative, and this starts with changing the very words we use.
There are big issues with the verbiage, most of which has not been updated in centuries. The origins for “popping the cherry,” date all the way back to the 1600s, and at some point got updated to mean a young woman was “ripe for plucking.”
“Losing” and “taking” virginity suggest a very uneven power exchange, among other disempowering and utterly false things. “Becoming a woman” was inaccurate long before the term involved gender change.
“Breaking the hymen” belongs in a biology book, or would if it was accurate. The hymen does not break; it stretches—and this can happen in a myriad of ways, including tampon usage and certain types of exercise. Careful with that bike, girls! It might take your “purity.” Which brings us to…
“Deflowering.” The most cringy of all.
Webster’s dictionary defines it as “depriving” someone of their virginity. Which isn’t even a thing! Like many of these other unacceptable terms, virginity is a man-made concept, used to control women and their bodies. Religious and societal influences sold us a complete illusion.
Regardless, in heterosexual relationships, this term implies that a woman’s value is depreciated like a new car driving out of the lot when she has sex for the first time.
Ladies, change is needed, for the girls and young women of today who are still getting indoctrinated with this deeply disempowering language.
Upon researching this topic, I learned that “sexual debut” has been added to the vernacular. I applaud this. But it replaces a phrase like “first time” that wasn’t all that offensive to begin with; the issues are with the verbs. We need terms that reflect that it’s an honor to be someone’s first lover, regardless of gender and sexual preference.
The conversation is only a starting point, but it’s something we can all play a part in changing today.
Ready To Change The Conversation?
Drop me a line with your with your ideas around how we can empower “reflowering” by changing the way we talk about our first time. What word or phrase do you suggest to replace “losing” and “taking” viriginity, deflowering, etc.?
My team will assemble the top suggestions, and put it to a vote!
Have We Met? I’m Nancy Koenig …
If I look familiar, you may have seen me in the Breath of Fire docuseries. Or perhaps you just recognize your soulfriends and guides at first sight, like I do.
I’m best known for helping people quickly and permanently heal from abuse , grief, and other traumas with B.E.S.T. energy healing—as I adventure around the world.
I’ve authored two upcoming books. I was weeks away from launching The Relationship Ride when the idea for Reflowerment™ dropped in and took over my creative life.
It’s quite the story…one which I’ll eventually share it in a series of synchronicity-rich and highly entertaining posts on my blog. Trust me; you don’t want to miss it!
There’s So Much More To The Reflowerment™ Movement …
Here’s how to get involved:
Join the Reflowerment™ Facebook community where the suggestions will be put to a vote, and share about the movement with friends.
Book a Reflowerment Rewrite™ session.
Learn more about B.E.S.T. energy healing.
Contact me to join the waitlist for upcoming Reflowerment Rewrite groups and online retreats, or learn how you can host an intimate Reflowerment Retreat in your own home. Please specify which you’re interested in!
Check out the blog for inspiration—and eventually Reflowerment’s origin story.
Explore the books. The Relationship Ride is about my real-life awakening through abuse, and Love Without Traffic is a transformational novel. Both are compelling love stories that heal.
Follow Reflowerment on Facebook. More social pages coming soon!